Cup of Sweet Tea

 I don’t want to be somebody
 Just wannabe be me, be me
                                                WANNABE – ITZY

Have you even thought for example I hate that girls hair today to much and then realized, “Who am I to say that to her? Actually, I love her hair.”Just hypothetical but in short

Why you a hater?

Hating, back bitching or pointing out little flaws in everyone does not make you cool. it just shows just how much you hate yourself  even if you deny. Like Chill no one cares Gossiping or hating gives temporary satisfaction, but it builds bitterness inside you in the long run. It steals your light will the other person goes on with their life

Most of the time it is just hate and jealousy without reason. Or “She flirts with every guy while having a boyfriend.” So you decide it is your job to hate her and dismiss every good thing she does. {It’s just an example} you usually do not know the other side of the story. Even if you swear you do, you cannot really know what is going on in someone else’s mind. Most times, hate comes from our own insecurities onto others. If you dislike something in someone else it may be something you secretly fear or dislike in yourself.

 {The most common behavior seen in collages and colony aunties} And frankly it is not always your fault. You are conditioned to think like this by the people around you, often without realizing it. Hating often starts with comparison. Social media making a glorified version will no one’s struggles and dakside are seen but that’s okay cause no one wants to show that. But a reminder that everyone has their own battles with their mind which is enough.

Some girl’s mom on the internet said this to her that “Your first thought is what you are conditioned to think & the second is what you really think”

I’m not saying I’m never a hater but I’m trying not to be one {cause mamma raised a good kid} just known that being known as a “hater” eventually makes people trust you less. Being known as someone who is kind makes people respect you more. {just know the limit it}

 Of course, some people have done things that genuinely deserve hate, but for the little stuff it is not worth it. If you stop waste your time and energy on these negative thing, you will start loving yourself to the fullest. Your life will be abundant.

 What I do to fix these thoughts.  Name 5 things you like about the person in your mind, and things you really do cause you don’t need to do for the sake of other people do this for yourself. It will change your mindset so much over time. 

“At the end of the day, choosing kindness over hate doesn’t just change how others feel it transforms how you see yourself.”